Links & Resources
Key Elements to Planning Your Own Party (PlanYourOwnParty.Blogspot.com): Everything you need to know to make your next party a memorable event, both for mainstream affairs as well as fully adult functions.
An Essential Introduction to Our Full Series (AnEssentialIntroduction.Blogspot): A primary intro to our full series...
An Insider's Guide to Understanding the BDSM Community (UnderstandingBDSM.Blogspot): Offering an inside look at the BDSM Culture, focused more on what you see if viewed from the outside looking in vs. a more common 'how to' guide.
A Basic Understanding for Fantasy, Role Play, & the Fetish Scene (UnderstandingFetishFantasy.Blogspot): Understanding the key elements of Fetish Based Attachment as well as fantasy & role play desires.
Understanding Swingers, Polyamory, & the LifeStyle Culture (UnderstandingSwingers.Blogspot): Exploring the various aspects of the Swinger & Lifestyle Scene as well as key differences between the Swinger & Polyamory Community.
A Better Understanding for the Nature of Sexual Identity (UnderstandingSexualIdentity.Blogspot): Dealing with issues of bisexuality, transsexuals vs. transvestites, & various levels of sexual orientation.
Understanding Sexual Repression (UnderstandingSexualRepression.Blogspot): Dealing with the inner beast of sexual repression.
Scene Based Media:
Gothic Beauty (www.GothicBeauty.com): Featuring trends in fashion, music, art, & entertainment for the Gothic Community.
Gorgeous Freaks (Facebook): Launched in 2011, Gorgeous Freaks covers the full breadth of alternative culture from Goth, Body Art, Fetish, TV/TS, & a wide range of diverse interests. Available in print & electronic formats. Also see MagCloud.
Regen Magazine (RegenMag.com): an online publication devoted to underground goth/electro/industrial music, offering
comprehensive & objective critique / analysis to help expose the most talented, visionary, & creative artists to the public at large.
Eric Von Gutenberg (www.VonGutenberg.com):
Offering one of the scene's best blogs, a very high end magazine,
social networking, online shopping, as well as hosting incredible
parties for the west coast. This is an invaluable resource for the
Marquis Magazine (www.Marquis.de): Fashion, news, events, & articles for the fetish community.
The Fetishistas (TheFetishistas.com): Comprehensive fetish news, featured articles, fashion, & photography from across the globe.
Fixe Magazine (FixeMagazine.com): Based out of New York, Fixe is an online publication that presents Fetish, Pinup, Goth and other alternative features in a mainstream & accessible way. Self-described as, “Like Maxim, but kinky.” ;-)
Tidewater Blue Magazine (www.TWBlue.com): Currently an archive housing what was one of the Mid-Atlantic's main online magazines for Southeastern Virginia &
Richmond. It offers personals, articles, & erotic fiction. Serves a
variety of Lifestyle interests.
Xtreme Magazine (www.xtrememagazine.com): Although The Metro doesn't cover items such as strip clubs, pornography, or adult entertainment, Xtreme Magazine is an excellent resource for the area & the nation.
| ||Steampunk Empire (www.TheSteampunkEmpire.com):
A fully evolved resource covering all aspects of the Steampunk Culture
on a national level. Membership is also available to create a social
networking opportunity in addition to a fundamental a scene guide. |
Fire & Flow List (FlowList.org): A comprehensive listing of Fire & Flow events for the national calendar.
DC Goth-Industrial Events (Facebook): Facebook group covering all DC goth-industrial & related events, be it club nights, shows, get-togethers, whatever is open to the public. Also covers Baltimore & the surrounding areas.
Philly Goth-Industrial (PhillyGothIndustrial.com): An comprehensive online resource covering all things related to the goth-industrial scene in & around the Philadelphia region. Also see Facebook.
Eidolon Career Solutions (www.EidolonCareerSolutions.com): Offering career management & professional solutions for those in the dark cultures & alternative lifestyles. For more information, please refer to main website.
BDSM Events Page (www.TheBDSMEventsPage.com): Providing listings of major BDSM Events from around the nation.
Fetish Events Page (www.FetishEventsPage.com): Offering major Fetish Events from around the nation.
BDSM Events Calendar (BDSMEventsCalendar.com): Providing Fetish & BDSM Event listings from across the nation.
BDSM Events Info (Fetlife): Covering all of Maryland from the Del Marva Peninsula to the West Virginia Pan handle.
The Fetish Information Exchange (www.FetishExchange.org): An instructional resource & information exchange featuring a depth of cultural material. Its focus is to provide a useful guide to explore sexuality as well as a variety of personal needs, wants, & desires. Recipient of the prestigious AVN Award for the Best Educational Site on the internet.
Jane's Guide - also relevant to Swingers (www.JanesGuide.com): Offering hands-on reviews for damn near everything & anything related to the Adult alternative culture, from clubs & groups (categorized by location), to movies, books, products, websites, & just about anything that you could possibly think of. It's a mainstay for the culture & one of the best resources available anywhere.
NASCA International (www.NASCA.com): NASCA offers a national/regional listing of clubs, events, & services which are relevant to the Swinger / Lifestyle Community. A premier gateway to the adult alternative scene throughout the United States.
Sexy Jobs (www.SexyJobs.com): National listing of job opportunities for the adult industry...
Dr. Ziggy's Forum on Sexuality (www.drziggy.com): A comprehensive resource that addresses an expansive array of topics concerning sexuality & the Adult Alternative Culture. Provided by a sex researcher.
The Society for Human Sexuality (www.Sexuality.org): An excellent resource that provides numerous links to topics on human sexuality. Including: books, forums, & organizations; scene relevant events, erotica, & matchmaking; various articles concerning numerous aspects to sexuality & perspectives on a wide range of topics such as Tantra, polyamory, bdsm, anal, oral, sexual positions.
World Polyamory Association (WorldPolyamoryAssociation): An invaluable resource for the Polyamorous Lifestyle.
Loving More (LoveMore.com): National Organization dedicated to the Polyamorous Lifestyle.
Marcus (MarcusTeaches.Blogspot.com): Sex-Positive educator & presenter for the gay, bi, & pansexual communities. Called "a truly engaging educator" - Marcus teaches classes, runs workshops, and even holds interactive sessions with demo tops or bottoms. He is normally available for group classes, but can also conduct smaller gathering or one-on-one classes.
Liberated Christians (www.LibChrist.com): A great resource that promotes positive intimacy as a legitimate choice for modern Christians, "exposing false traditions of sexual repression that have no biblical basis." Overall, it provides some very valuable information for those in the culture who might be conflicted due to a religious upbringing.
CDC / Center for Disease Control (www.CDC.gov): Not the best topic in our culture, but it's a very real consideration. If you have any concerns about Sexually Transmitted Disease (STD) or would like some general information on the subject, then the CDC has an extensive data base & can offer an enormous amount of information in this regard. If however you feel that you may have contacted an STD, then please don't hesitate to see a doctor (or if you are embarrassed about visiting your primary care physician then at least get to a clinic that specializes in this aspect of patient care). For yourself & the rest of the community, please be informed & always be careful.
Where to DC (WheretoDC.com): With a definite focus on dance, Where to DC is a newly launched site to help you find fun & interesting activities in the DC area.
Match Sites & Social Networking:
Tinder (GotTinder.com): Mobile Phone App providing geo-specific targeting of active profiles. It uses your Facebook profile to analyze a persons social makeup, then matches compatible profiles w/in a geographical are. Users may then anonymously 'like' another user by swiping right or pass by swiping left. If two users result in a 'match' & they are enabled to chat. Most often it's essentially used as a dating & hook-up site, but it does offer a wide variety of potential.
Model Mayhem (ModelMayhem.com): Primary site for models, photographers, event planners, & industry networking.
Vampire Freaks (VampireFreaks.com): More than a match or social networking site, it's all things for the Goth-Industrial Culture.
Fetlife (Fetlife.com): Provides
online networking for the kinkster crowd. It
essentially works as a kinky cousin to Facebook. Focused directly to the
alternative culture, it's the coolest damn thing to hit the net since, well, Facebook! See The Metro under groups!
adult personals for the BDSM, Fetish, & Leather Community. Although
it's the largest site of its kind, this is a VERY homogenized forum
with a large number of dead profiles
& false links.
Swing Lifestyle (www.SwingLifestyle.com): One of the most recognized sites with real couples & honest scenarios. Offering individual profiles, select forums, chat, groups for a wide range of interests, listings for regional parties, lifestyle tips, & more.
Kasidie (Kasidie.com): Adult dating site for Swingers, Couples, & Singles. Offering individual profiles, special forums, chat, various communities for a wide range of interests, listings for regional parties, lifestyle tips, & more.
APG / AltPlayGround (www.AltPlayGround.net): One of the area's core resources for those in the Lifestyles. They host the site as well as parties around the DC area. Profiles are real people & generally up to date.
The Lifestyle Lounge (www.LifestyleLounge.com): Online date & match site, "Where 'real' couples go to meet..." Personally, these guys make the most hilarious flash-point presentations anywhere. I'd check 'em out just for that alone! ;-)
OkCupid (www.okcupid.com): Although it's a mainstream dating site, it carries a large number of people in the alternative culture. As an interesting note, Match.com has recently purchased OkCupid so we'll see how this influences the overall site.
Match.com (www.Match.com): Self-described as the number one destination for online dating with more dates, relationships, & marriages than any other dating or personals site. But that tends to be due to the sheer volume of its members. Still, it's probably the largest dating site currently online & they've recently launched active area events for singles to meet face to face in real time.
Facebook (www.Facebook.com): In case you've been living under a rock, Facebook
a great means for interaction & will get you back in touch
with people you haven't seen in years. Also an invaluable forum for parties &
events. See The Metro on Facebook!
Meet-Up DC (www.MeetUp.com): A dedicated site for area events, outings, networking, & various activities.
Bisexual Playground (www.BisexualPlayground.com): Personals, info, & chat for bisexual couples & singles - both men & women.
Manhunt (www.Manhunt.net): Gay male personals & online chat for both dating & hook-ups.
Adam4Adam (www.Adam4Adam.com): Gay male personals, online chat, & cam for dating & hook-ups.
Recon (www.Recon.com): Self-described as the world's largest hook up site for gay men into fetish, leather, and gear.
Scruff (Scruff.com): Gay Mobile App for the iPhone & Android. Geo-socially targeted to find local gay, bi, & bi-curious guys. A key element allows the app to intuitively learns the type of individual you prefer w/ each successive swipe.
Jack'd (JackApp): Claiming to be the worlds fastest growing gay app in the world, Jack'd carries a diverse group of users & allows a prolific search by "scenes" as well as the usual search parameters of body type, etc.
Grindr (Grindr.com): Mobile App for iPhone & Android Devices. Geo-socially targeted for local gay, bi, & bi-curious guys, but reviews make note that photo & profile restrictions have reached an almost Puritan level of restraint.
The Resource Pool (www.ResourcePool.org): An educational resource offering lectures, demonstrations, discussions, & workshops for the BDSM Community in & around the Washington, DC area.
The Washington City Paper (www.WashingtonCityPaper.com): Alternative City Guide to news, events, clubs, restaurants, & what's happening in & around town. Readily available throughout the city.
Washingtonian Magazine (www.Washingtonian.com): City Magazine offering the when, where, who, & what's going on. Available to keep you informed for general life & culture in Washington, DC. Available at most bookstores & magazine stands.
The Washington Post (www.WashingtonPost.com): Main newspaper serving the DC Area. Friday edition offers the weekend guide which lists all the events such as festivals, bands, cultural events, & mainstream activities happening around town.
On Tap Magazine (www.OnTapOnline.com): Washington's ultimate guide to the club, pub, & restaurant scene. Available online as well as in local venues throughout the area. This is a monthly publication.
Where Magazine (WhereTraveler.com): A general guide to the city geared primarily for the tourism trade. Excellent resource for shopping, shows, restaurant reviews, & general neighborhood orientation. Available in most hotel lobbies.
Brightest Young Things (www.brightestyoungthings.com): An exhaustive list of events & enticements throughout the area.
DC After Five (DCAfterFive.com): City guide offering everything to do in terms of clubs, music, restaurants, arts, & more.
The Washington Blade (www.washingtonblade.com): Primary news source & prolific scene guide serving the Gay Culture in Washington, DC. Readily available at gay hotspots throughout the city. Sister publication is also in Baltimore.
MW / Metro Weekly (www.MetroWeekly.com): Washington's GBLT News Magazine. Readily available throughout the city.
Flock Baltimore (Facebook.com/Flock.Baltimore): Excellent resource & event promoter for alternative music & the underground scene in Baltimore & its surrounding areas.
Sugar (SugarTheShop.com): Baltimore's premier boutique for adult materials, workshops, & occasional events (including First Friday's Reception in line with the merchants of Hampden Hall). Located at the corner of 36th Street & Roland Ave. Baltimore.
The Baltimore City Paper (www.CityPaper.com): Alternative City Guide to news, events, clubs, restaurants, & what's happening in & around town. Readily available throughout the city.
Baltimore Magazine (BaltimoreMagazine.net): City Magazine offering the when, where, who, & what's going on. Available to keep you informed for mainstream life & culture in & around the Baltimore area. Available at most bookstores & magazine stands.
Richmond dot-com (www.Richmond.com): Your basic guide to all things Richmond, including listings & reviews for clubs, restaurants, news, & local events.
Passional (www.Passional.net): Formally Fetishes Boutique, Passional sponsors educational workshops, art receptions, "Passion 101 Fantasy Workshops", Aphrodite Gallery and "Sex-pedition" tours. See Website for further details.
Philadelphia Magazine (www.PhillyMag.com): City Magazine offering the when, where, who, & what's going on. Available to keep you informed for general life & culture in & around the Philadelphia region. Available at most bookstores & magazine stands.
Philly2Nite (www.Philly2Night.com): Philadelphia's nightlife resource, featuring club & restaurant reviews, guest list availability, area events, as well as mainstream alternative venues.
Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns (Book coauthored by Philip Miller and Molly Devon) - Published in 1995, this text became an instant classic. Its coverage of core topics offers a depth of insight & understanding while its style & format are both lavish & beautiful. The Black Rose calls it, "as close to a coffee table book as the field has yet produced." The only problem is that in its writings, it tends to see no difference between S/M & D/S, which is clearly incorrect.
Miss Abernathy’s Concise Slave Training Manual (Book by Christina Abernathy) - Just like it says, this a tight, concise guidebook to properly training a slave. Essentially presented in two parts, Part I deals more with specific techniques for training, while Part II offers a more in-depth look at the relationship as a whole & the various aspects of the D&S dynamic. Elegantly written & engaging.
The Story of ‘O’ (Classic Erotic Fiction by Pauline Reage)- From the Inside Cover: "The classic erotic novel, The Story of 'O' relates the love of a beautiful Parisian fashion photographer for Rene. As part of that intense love, she demands debasement and severe sexual and psychological tests. It is a unique work not to be missed. This is a truly unique & deeply fascinating story of the unadulterated surrender of ones body mind and soul. It is one of the most classical tales of true erotic fiction."
And Part II in the Journey - Return to the Chateau.
The Marquis de Sade: The Complete Justine, Philosophy in the Bedroom, and Other Writings (Compilation of Essays compiled and translated by Richard Seaver & Austryn Wainhouse) - An exhaustive accumulation of the Marquis' works, which for the record, represented an exploration of graphic (perhaps even obscene) fantasy that was engaged fully in the dark nature of man. However, this was - to the best of our understanding - not meant as an expression of viable reality. His philosophy in this was an outcropping of the view that mankind is ultimately governed by the laws of nature, & that nature in its most common element is indeed rather cruel. So, mankind if he is to be in harmony with is inner self must at the very least allow himself to imagine himself in possession of such cruelty. In short, it's twisted, but then again it's the combined work of "The Marquis de Sade" - need we really say more?
The Joy of Sex (Book by Alex Comfort) - A classic work & instructional primer on the many aspects of adult sexual play. While its approach to the subject matter is both clear & informative, its overall tone & sense of class actually make it an excellent book to give to a youth who is ready for 'the talk.' Indeed, this is not a 'Lifestyle' publication but rather an open dialogue for the art of adult sexual practice.
The Ultimate Swingers Guide (Book by Tina Minell) - Probably one of the best introductory texts ever written on the culture. Tons of information about etiquette, meeting others in the scene, finding clubs & groups, as well as what to expect. Safe play, discretion, & approaching your partner with the general concept are just a few of the topics covered in depth. A must have for those new to the scene.
Anal Pleasure & Health (Book by Jack Morin) - One of the best books ever published on the topic of anal play (indeed, it may very well be one of only a very few books dedicated to this particular subject). It's focus on health & hygiene make it ever more relevant in a time where HIV still lurks in the shadows but is not given the focus it achieved just several years ago.
The Leatherman's Handbook II (Book by Larry Townsend) - An updated & complete rewrite of Larry's 1972 classic by the same name (one of the nation's first manuals for S&M play). It offers an extensive how-to instructional for a broad spectrum of topics in the BDSM Culture. It's key focus however is an all male perspective; but even still, its content is useful to all in the scene.
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